The Five Percent
- demichellewrites
- Apr 5
- 4 min read
Updated: Apr 9
Roughly five percent of the US population is considered to be Narcissistic, I believe.
While there is no blame to be placed, I do believe that being held responsible for one’s own actions should still be expected.
This is a familial cycle. This is brought forth from generations as far back as when the name Narcissus first existed.
It has been said that this may be defined as genetic. It has been said that this can be defined as behavioral. In my mind, it is probably both. It may be an inborn trait or it may be, as some say, the two year old with lack of discipline.
Maybe the instinct to deceive is genetic and the methods used to succeed are learned. Who knows.
Narcissus did not know who he truly was. Those of us who have been chosen to coexist among the 5% should be made aware that we are on the wrong side of that five percent.
Awareness is important. Should one partner learn that their partner is narcissistic or sociopathic and should they decide to stay in that relationship, that’s a choice. It’s when one partner does not realize that their partner, parents, siblings or their other half, is using covert manipulation and well mastered control to influence the way that the person on this side of the 5% should think and feel.
I didn’t know. I took it upon myself to go to great lengths to figure out the psychological disorders that were in play throughout my first 50+ years.
I learned my own way to decipher these harmful personality traits and the effect they were having on my life.
There were many.
The purpose behind this blog is to make aware the people who are being unknowingly misused and abused.
If you walk away from a situation feeling like ‘wait, what?’ give the ‘what’ the benefit of your doubt. There is a method behind the gaslighting that you have just experienced.
When we shrug our shoulders and walk away, we are leaving the opposition with the feeling that they have just pulled the wool over our eyes.
That validates for them that whatever method they just used to put something over on us is a method that will work again. That behavior will then happen over and over again.
In my life, no one was in any position to kindly and softly guide me through the things that I did not know. They were raised to be believe that, if I behave in a silly way because I did not know any better, it was funny.
And therein lies the laugh.
Since those behaviors would continue in a cycle, my feeling of humiliation would continue in a cycle, unnecessarily.
If my reader is unsure of the way others who love them choose to treat them, please do some research.
www.SelfLoveRecovery.com by Ross Rosenberg is the perfect place to start if you prefer to read. Lisa Romano has Vlogs available if you’d prefer to hear more www.LisaRomano.com
Along that path readers will see the words no-contact. This is the magic button.
I’ve chosen no contact because it is the only viable coping strategy to the conflict that the 5% incite.
Also, if one finds they are part of the 5%, they owe it to the other 95% of us to conform while in public, but, most importantly, behind closed doors.
Your family should be the place to share your love, not your misery.
This cycle will continue until someone in that 5% initiates change from within. Within that cycle or, better, within themselves.
I don’t deserve your misery…I deserve true love.
Wouldn’t it make sense to let go of the need for wealth, power, image, and sources of supply, and treat the 95% with the ‘love’ that the 5% has not ever learned to have….toward themselves.
Wouldn’t it be awesome if the overwhelm and exhaustion of maintaining a N or S (narcissistic or sociopathic) personality would give way to a love for yourself. A connection to who you would have been had the odds not been against you.
I have seen some, the ones who wake up in total dismay for having to do everything themselves. The ones who believe that they are in complete control of everyone and everything around them but can’t imagine it being any other way. Wouldn’t they feel the relief that delegating has in store for them?
If, among all of that, you see no reason to change, decide then, that you do not want the future generations of your family to be cursed in exactly the same way that you are.
Think about the other 95% who sees you for who you really are but truly wishes that you didn’t have to be that way.
I’m not here to hurt, I am here in hope of ending this minimizing and humiliating disorder because I deserve better.
Everyone deserves better!
We hear you, reader,
deMichelle
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